Isaiah 49:15-16 (ESV)- “Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; your walls are continually before me.
Dear Single Mother,
Recently God had me face the abandonment I felt in the past as a new single mother. I’ve been the sole provider for my children (two lovely boys) for 13 yrs now but there was still residue left behind due to the circumstances of me raising them on my own. I thought I had already been delivered from the feelings of abandonment amongst other issues. It still lingered like this invisible dead weight that I carried for years. I wasn’t revealed to me until I started specifically asking God to finish what He had begun in me.
My heart and soul desired to be completely free from anything that had me bound, hindered my growth and progress, and delayed me from taking possession of the promises and territory God promised me! I bring this up because I know as a single parent you experience many feelings from abandonment to guilt and everything in between. There are also times where you think you’ve gotten over something and then at the most “opportune” time it springs up like a geyser and shocks you with the same or similar intensity of when you first experience it. You then think to yourself “I thought I was healed from that!” but it turns out it was either buried deep or you didn’t complete the healing process.
We must take the time and be dedicated to going through each step of the healing process. This depends on the severity and depth of the wound, just like in the natural. When your mindset is to get over it or for what happened to be out of sight and out of mind, you do yourself a disservice. When you don’t address the hurt, pain, or whatever feelings are associated with your experience in becoming or being a single parent than like I said before, it springs up like a geyser and you have no choice but to face it head on.
It does not matter what circumstances led to you raising your children on your own because God is there with you. He is there to give you the strength, wisdom, and knowledge that is necessary to raise up Godly children. There are challenges that come with single parenthood but I must say from experience that God has not left nor forsaken me in the midst of it. His presence has comforted me when I thought I was going to lose my mind. His loving arms wrapped around me when I felt alone and neglected. This is only a small aspect of what I've experienced while raising my handsome, intelligent young men!
God is and has available to you whatever is necessary to raise the little humans He has entrusted you with. God KNEW you were capable and equipped before He even formed them in your womb! He also knew there were going to be times where you didn't get it quite right and that's okay. He's not disappointed but He does want us to learn and grow from those mistakes. Trust God with your whole heart and trust Him to get you through the twists and turns of parenthood! It’s not meant to be uneventful but just as He has gotten you through everything else, He WILL see you through this! He is forever faithful!